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Wong He’s love life has been the subject of many ‘tea time’ conversations and over the years, there has been much speculation regarding his relationships as well as his sexual orientation. Who is Wong He’s ‘other half’? Is it the same-sex friend known only as Ming Jai (明仔) whom the Media claims has lived with him for many years? Or is it the former female DJ named Kawaii whom he was rumored with over a year ago? With regard to the question of whether he loves men or women, Wong He is not willing to ‘reveal’ the answer just yet -- however he admits that he does not agree with the secular view of marriage in society and therefore has vowed never to marry!

** The below are Wong He’s own words as recorded by the reporter (continued from previous article):

I’m already 44 years old, however my mother has not asked me about marriage because I had already ‘announced’ to her early on that I will never marry. Actually, in modern society, it’s not mandatory for everyone to get married. In terms of my views on marriage, I have to admit that I’m an advocate of a “one husband, multiple wives” system – today’s society has the accepted “one husband, one wife” standard, however I feel that this type of standard is a bit too regulated. As it is, there are naturally a lot of problems that exist when it comes to interaction between people, especially when the interaction is only between the same 2 people – issues with your partner undergoing physical changes, mental changes, etc. When things like that happen, the ‘other half’ doesn’t have any other choice – for just those same 2 people to stay together with each other forever, it’s not easy at all!

Don’t let romantic love stories fool you

With all the advances in modern technology and the constant changes in society, the way people want to interact with each other should be left up to the free will of each individual – just looking at society, there are instances of males partnered with females, males with males, females with females….how am I ‘partnered’ up? Haha….all I can tell you is that I’m ‘partnered’ up with 2 cats…no matter what though, I am very clear as to the importance of mutual communication and understanding. Don’t let those romantic love stories fool you – a lot of times, the person who lives with you may not be the person you truly love. In your mind, you may have a certain image of how your ‘ideal lover’ should be, but whether 2 people can truly endure the test of love depends on whether they are able to endure together the various ‘flavors’ (sweet, sour, bitter, spicy) of life.

Those who are truly able to ‘embody’ love in their relationship are those who will stick by each other no matter what happens and wholeheartedly accepts each others faults. It’s those people who are willing to stay together with you even if you lose an arm or a leg or never have anything good happen to you, or if you have bad habits that cannot be changed (as everyone does) – I liken it to someone who is terminally ill…honestly, would you really haggle with a terminally ill person? If you are really able to ‘heal’ that person, then good for you – otherwise, why try to force that person to change? If the person forgets to flush the toilet, then flush it for him/her! Even if you complain about the person’s snoring, you still need to accept it because at the end of the day, that’s not something within their control….anyway, keeping an optimistic view, doesn’t it work better to just focus the 2 people’s energies together to forge an even better future? It’s about taking on an attitude of tolerance and acceptance – in fact, I’m actually one of those looking to be ‘accepted’!

All matters big and small in life require ‘love’ in order to be fulfilled – this is how ‘love’ is accumulated and eventually manifested outward…if there is more ‘love’ left, then the process continues and repeats. Comparing this to modern society’s marriage system, having the couple gather together with friends and family to make a commitment – it’s too purposeful. If the reason why they are together [in marriage] is to fulfill a promise, then without that promise and commitment, are they still going to love each other unconditionally? Have you ever thought about why your ‘partner’ in life sleeps next to you? In ancient times, there’s the saying: 百年修得同船渡，千年修得共枕眠 (“It takes a hundred years cultivation to get the chance to cross paths on the same boat, it takes a thousand years cultivation to get the chance to rest on the same pillow”) [TN: Can be interpreted as: “treasure the partner that you have, as it is not an easy path to get to where the two of you are today”]. With me being a ‘modern’ person, my take on this saying is: “having a ten thousand square foot mansion can’t compare to having someone who is willing to stand guard over a 100 square foot suite waiting for you to come home.” So who is the ‘life partner’ who lies together with me? I’m not going to tell you!

Source: Oriental Daily
Translation: llwy12 @ AsianFanatics Forum